Heelllooo,
since I'm in england I had to realise that sometimes friendships can change. I have done a blog post about friendships already so if you want to check it out as well? :) So I don't want to talk about that, I want to talk about how friendships can change and even some of them get completely lost.
Since I am here I got even closer to some friends, I write with them constanly in Whatsapp, facebook or whatever. I skype as often as I can and I have the feeling I never have been closer to them. That's something I've never expected. When I made my final desicion to move to England, this was one of the main things that hold me back to go this big step. Now I'm super happy I did it. When you're apart from your friends you start to think about the friendship and really appreciate them.
One thing I noticed is since I'm here I obviously made new friends because, come on, you need some friends with you as well with whom you can talk face-to-face. I'm super lucky to have met this amazing people and I'm really lucky but I realized that some of my friends struggle with me talking a lot of my new friends. I tell them what things we do and what we are planing, as you do. Some of my 'old' friends have some slightly problems with that. You could see that it bothers them. I don't know why, maybe because they were jealous or whatever but at some point I said to myself 'Ok, this isn't how it can go one for a whole year' so I talked to them. And you know why they acted like this? Because they were afraid to loose me, what I think is super cute of them. So we sat down (virtual) and talked about everything. That' the only advise I can give you. If you see or feel that there is a problem in your friendship, go and talk about it with your friend. That's the only way how you can solve it and don't hold back anything talk with open cards, tha's the only chance to solve it and get over it.
So, I'm super happy that I could solve this problems with some of my friends but on the other hand I had to realize that not all friendships can survive this year.
For example I lost completely any contact to one of my bestest and closest friends. This was something I didn't want to accept at first. I tried and tried to stay in contact with her, but there was absolutly now chance. She is so busy with her own life that she couldn't manage to keep in contact with me.
For everybody who has experienced this, it absolutly hurts.
I don't know if it's normal, but I was very angry at first. I wanted to keep our friendship alive and she just throw it away. I was super angry.
But after a while I realized that she hasn't done it on purpose. This is something in life that happens and we have to accept that. I took my time and now I'm not angry anymore, I'm sad that it came to a end but I'm fine with that.
If you are in one of these situations don't be angry or mean! Stand up be more than this and think about why you lost contact?! Sometimes things or persons (also you) change and you can't help it that things change! The only thing is, you have to accept it and go on. This sounds easy, I know, but take your time and you will see things will get better and you will accept the things the way it is.
And at the end you will make new friends and someday you will look back with a smile to it rather than being full of anger.
Lots of love,
Jen ♥
31 January 2015
23 January 2015
Ordinary
Heelllooo,
I was just sitting on my bed and listening to the song 'Ordinary' by Ricky Dillon and I thought about what he's actually singing in his song.
Well, everybody knows the feeling to try to fit into something. It doesn't matter if it is to fit into the school life, family life, friendships or work world. We always have to fit in and pretened to be someone we aren't. Sometimes this can be extremly exhausting because you have to do this for most of the day. When I was younger I always struggled with fitting in, acctually I never did. I tried so hard, to fit into the way my friends were, the way my teachers wanted me to be and my class. I never had any problem with my family but being someone else from 6.30am to 3.30pm was exhausting enough. I experienced this since I was in Primary school. I was, and still I am, a very shy person at first and there are so many people out there who make profit out of that. I think, it's way easier for you to make a person the way you want if you are a little bit shy and not really outspoken.
Only until 2 years ago I understand that you only can stop to pretend to be someone else, if you are happy with yourself. I know this is very hard and believe me I still struggle with that, but you only can start to be who you want if you excepted who you are. This doesn't mean that you have to look like a supermodel or you have to be the most outspoken person ever. No, this means that you except yourself the way you are. You have not the perfect body shape? Well, how cares? There are so many successfull persons out there who aren't size 0! You aren't the most funny person who entertains the whole room? You don't have to be! You think you don't have any special talent like singing, dancing, drawing or whatever? You don't have to be good at these! There is definitely something you're good as well and why bodering with this you can't instead of focusing on these things you can?!
What I wanted to say is: Not everybody is the same and we don't have to try to be the same as someone else, we are good the way we are!
And if this is ordinary like the usual, fine, but if this is beside of the usual, thats fine as well! I can be myself without copying someone else and I get excepted by all my friends as well and by the people I meet new.
For those who try to change me or don't except me: I really don't care! You can try to change me, but I stay me and I don't even try to be ordinary.
Let's face it: how boring would life be if we all would be the same and walk around in the same things? Yeah, pretty boring.
So try to be how you are and don't give a sh** if you are ordinary and one of the 'cool kids'. You really don't have to be one of those. Well, I tried for 11 years to be one of them and let's face it, I never was one and I never will be one. But I don't care! I'm fine with who I am and that's whats matters!!!
Lots of love,
Jen ♥
I was just sitting on my bed and listening to the song 'Ordinary' by Ricky Dillon and I thought about what he's actually singing in his song.
Well, everybody knows the feeling to try to fit into something. It doesn't matter if it is to fit into the school life, family life, friendships or work world. We always have to fit in and pretened to be someone we aren't. Sometimes this can be extremly exhausting because you have to do this for most of the day. When I was younger I always struggled with fitting in, acctually I never did. I tried so hard, to fit into the way my friends were, the way my teachers wanted me to be and my class. I never had any problem with my family but being someone else from 6.30am to 3.30pm was exhausting enough. I experienced this since I was in Primary school. I was, and still I am, a very shy person at first and there are so many people out there who make profit out of that. I think, it's way easier for you to make a person the way you want if you are a little bit shy and not really outspoken.
Only until 2 years ago I understand that you only can stop to pretend to be someone else, if you are happy with yourself. I know this is very hard and believe me I still struggle with that, but you only can start to be who you want if you excepted who you are. This doesn't mean that you have to look like a supermodel or you have to be the most outspoken person ever. No, this means that you except yourself the way you are. You have not the perfect body shape? Well, how cares? There are so many successfull persons out there who aren't size 0! You aren't the most funny person who entertains the whole room? You don't have to be! You think you don't have any special talent like singing, dancing, drawing or whatever? You don't have to be good at these! There is definitely something you're good as well and why bodering with this you can't instead of focusing on these things you can?!
What I wanted to say is: Not everybody is the same and we don't have to try to be the same as someone else, we are good the way we are!
And if this is ordinary like the usual, fine, but if this is beside of the usual, thats fine as well! I can be myself without copying someone else and I get excepted by all my friends as well and by the people I meet new.
For those who try to change me or don't except me: I really don't care! You can try to change me, but I stay me and I don't even try to be ordinary.
Let's face it: how boring would life be if we all would be the same and walk around in the same things? Yeah, pretty boring.
So try to be how you are and don't give a sh** if you are ordinary and one of the 'cool kids'. You really don't have to be one of those. Well, I tried for 11 years to be one of them and let's face it, I never was one and I never will be one. But I don't care! I'm fine with who I am and that's whats matters!!!
Lots of love,
Jen ♥
18 January 2015
Everybody is different
Heelllooo,
this weekend I was out with some friends and I realized something major:
Everybody is different.
You may think now: 'Well, yeah you figured that out very soon Jenny' but I don't mean it by, that every person comes in different shapes and outlooks. I mean it by every person is different in their personalities.
So for example, I have a friend who is very outgoing, open, funny and always up for a adventure. One of my other freinds is very shy at the beginning, but when you know her better she is the funniest and crazies person I know. An other of mine likes so keep stuff to herself and isn't very open to others.
Well, I could continue this list with tons of other examples, but let it sum it up: There are different times of persons. Some are introvert and some are extrovert. And there is even a mix between it which is an ambivert. So you see, everybody is different.
Me, for myself I would describe myself as a ambivert. Sometimes it is the easiest thing for me to meet others and be very open, but then there are times where I'm very shy and I can't open myself or even talk to a person.
For me this was always very strange, why are my moods are changing that much?
Well, first of all I wouldn't consider as a mood, and second I think it just depends on how confident I feel in the situation and with whom I'm with.
If I'm with good friends I usually don't do have any problems meeting new people but being on my self or in a situation I don't feel confident it is very hard for me.
But anyways, at the age of 20 I finally understand that it doesn't matter. The people who know me understand how I am and like me this way. They know how I react in different situations and I don't have to stress myself to be someone else then I am. Because lets face it: I'm not going to change this much in my age anymore. I lived like this for 20 years and there are still people around me who eccept the way I am right now and the way I'm always was.
And why should I stress myself and try to change it and make it even worse with this?!
I shouldn't! I should eccept myself and be proud of who I am and don't worry so much about these little things!
If you like you could write me a comment or a message and tell me what you are, a introvert, extrovert or a ambivert like I am.
Lots of love,
Jen ♥
this weekend I was out with some friends and I realized something major:
Everybody is different.
You may think now: 'Well, yeah you figured that out very soon Jenny' but I don't mean it by, that every person comes in different shapes and outlooks. I mean it by every person is different in their personalities.
So for example, I have a friend who is very outgoing, open, funny and always up for a adventure. One of my other freinds is very shy at the beginning, but when you know her better she is the funniest and crazies person I know. An other of mine likes so keep stuff to herself and isn't very open to others.
Well, I could continue this list with tons of other examples, but let it sum it up: There are different times of persons. Some are introvert and some are extrovert. And there is even a mix between it which is an ambivert. So you see, everybody is different.
Me, for myself I would describe myself as a ambivert. Sometimes it is the easiest thing for me to meet others and be very open, but then there are times where I'm very shy and I can't open myself or even talk to a person.
For me this was always very strange, why are my moods are changing that much?
Well, first of all I wouldn't consider as a mood, and second I think it just depends on how confident I feel in the situation and with whom I'm with.
If I'm with good friends I usually don't do have any problems meeting new people but being on my self or in a situation I don't feel confident it is very hard for me.
But anyways, at the age of 20 I finally understand that it doesn't matter. The people who know me understand how I am and like me this way. They know how I react in different situations and I don't have to stress myself to be someone else then I am. Because lets face it: I'm not going to change this much in my age anymore. I lived like this for 20 years and there are still people around me who eccept the way I am right now and the way I'm always was.
And why should I stress myself and try to change it and make it even worse with this?!
I shouldn't! I should eccept myself and be proud of who I am and don't worry so much about these little things!
If you like you could write me a comment or a message and tell me what you are, a introvert, extrovert or a ambivert like I am.
Lots of love,
Jen ♥
5 January 2015
New Year resolution
Heelllooo,
it's this time of the year again! We start completly fresh into a new year and everybody of us has good resolutions for the upcoming year, We all tell ourselves 'this year I'm going to make it!' and as soon as we can see we fail, or at least I always do and most of my freinds. :D
But why? Aren't we string enough?
I wouldn't say so. I know for a fact, that I always set the wrong aims. My goals are always way too high, so when I set them I kinda already know that I'm going to fail. But this year I was smarter.
Instead of setting an awful lot of goals I picked 3, only 3 I know I moght can achieve.
So the first one os: eating more healthy.
I don't mean cutting out sweets completely, I mean to start to look more of what I eat again and how much. I used to do that quite good but I was a little bit lazy on the last time. :)
Second: getting fitter.
Once again I don't mean that I get super sporty, going to the gym nearly everyday, because let's face it, I'm neither super sporty or highly motivated to go to the gym. But I try to go to the gym on a regular basis and do as best as I can. Once again, I don't care if my freinds can lift more or can jog longer, I want to be as best as possible and that's all that matters to me.
And last but definitely not least: I want to be more of who I want to be.
For me being myself was always very difficult. When I was younger I sourounded myself woth people who formed me into somebody I'm not really and since I'm here in England I started completly new. I met new people who I could show who I really am and they didn't care. I want forge all the negativity I had in the past out of other people and start to believe into myself and be who I want to be. And so far I'm really proud of myself. For me it is really important not to rush it and do it head over heels, I try to do it slowly with a pace I'm happy and comfortable with.
Well, these are my new year resolutions, now I would like to read some of yours, leave a comment below! :)
Lots of love,
Jen ♥
it's this time of the year again! We start completly fresh into a new year and everybody of us has good resolutions for the upcoming year, We all tell ourselves 'this year I'm going to make it!' and as soon as we can see we fail, or at least I always do and most of my freinds. :D
But why? Aren't we string enough?
I wouldn't say so. I know for a fact, that I always set the wrong aims. My goals are always way too high, so when I set them I kinda already know that I'm going to fail. But this year I was smarter.
Instead of setting an awful lot of goals I picked 3, only 3 I know I moght can achieve.
So the first one os: eating more healthy.
I don't mean cutting out sweets completely, I mean to start to look more of what I eat again and how much. I used to do that quite good but I was a little bit lazy on the last time. :)
Second: getting fitter.
Once again I don't mean that I get super sporty, going to the gym nearly everyday, because let's face it, I'm neither super sporty or highly motivated to go to the gym. But I try to go to the gym on a regular basis and do as best as I can. Once again, I don't care if my freinds can lift more or can jog longer, I want to be as best as possible and that's all that matters to me.
And last but definitely not least: I want to be more of who I want to be.
For me being myself was always very difficult. When I was younger I sourounded myself woth people who formed me into somebody I'm not really and since I'm here in England I started completly new. I met new people who I could show who I really am and they didn't care. I want forge all the negativity I had in the past out of other people and start to believe into myself and be who I want to be. And so far I'm really proud of myself. For me it is really important not to rush it and do it head over heels, I try to do it slowly with a pace I'm happy and comfortable with.
Well, these are my new year resolutions, now I would like to read some of yours, leave a comment below! :)
Lots of love,
Jen ♥
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