Heelllooo,
so todays blog post is about a discussion that everbody knows! It's about beeing perfect!
We all have this imagination of a perfect boy/girl in our minds but can a perfect person even exist?
In my opinion no! It's scientifically proven that a person who looks like 90/60/90 can't even exist.. So I'm very sorry boys but you can't get your perfect girl who looks like a barbie.. :( :)
But beside of that what makes a person perfect?
For me personally it't just character! As simple as it's sounds!
Of course we all are saying that look doesn't matter but be honest, look does matter! The first impression we get from a person is their look, so we can't say it doesn't matter. However we can say that it is important but we are looking more for the person who is behind this shell and thats the important part. It's soooo easy to say that look is the only thing that matters but what if the person looks good but on the other hand he or she is stupid and you can't even have a conversation with?
So lets go aways from this whole perfect look thing and look inside of the person! Doesn't it matter that you can have fun with the other person and you are really like the person and you enjoy the time the person is around you?!
So for me the disscusion everbody is having for ages is just that short! If I personally like a person than look doesn't matter and I even don't try to be perfect. Then if you are perfect isn't life very boring?
If that's the case you can't go crazy with your friends, you can't be creepy or just can't do things that normal people wouldn't do and in my opinion these things are the stuff that makes life exciting.
So don't try to be perfect! Don't try to be like Beyonce, Demi Lovato, Justin Bieber or whoever you idealise. You are perfect the way you are and don't try to be a other person because you are unique the way you are and that's good and for a reason! And even when you are saying now 'But nobody like me' that's not true! Outthere there is at least one person who likes you the way you are and wouldn't like to miss this!!!!
So try to remember this words whenever you try to be perfect, and say to yourself that this isn't something that's worth it!
Lots of love,
Jen ♥
Heelllooo,
since I started this blog I talked a lot about how you can make yourself happy, but what's about other people? You might not know this but we can also make others happy! So I thought a little bit about how you can make others happy and here is a little collection with the most important points that Icame up with:
- Cheer them up when their are feeling down
I think this one is very important so I start with this. Always when I feel down I'm so glad if there is a friend out there who try to make me smile again. No matter if it's working or not, I just think the thought is important. You can see that the person cares about you and likes you.
So if you have a freind who is feeling down just try to cheer them up and lets make them forget their problems for a second.
-Accepting a person as who their are and don't try to change them
This is maybe the most important piont in my opinion. I personally think that everbody should be accepted for who their are and for who their want to be. I know that there are so many people out there who try to change others personality or look. But why? Shouldn't we accept everbody for who their are and make them this way happy?!
- Show somebody love
I know that for example parents can be sooooo annoying and we are wishing sometimes that they wouldn't annoy us anymore but what would be if their wouldn't be there anymore? We wouldn't be happy either!
So why don't we just show somebody we love that we love them?! This don't have to be a big present or something other material, it also could be a simple 'I love you' or 'Thanks for always been there for me'. And you can see that you make somebodys day just with these simple words if they came from the bottom of your heart and you meant it this way. This person won't stop smiling the whole day and you can bet on it that the person will be happy, even if it's just for a little time!
- When you spend time with somebody who is lonely
There are so many lonely persons out there, so why don't we spend time with these? No matter if this is a friend who feels lonely because he or she break up with somebody, lost someone or just haven't found lots of freind. So why don't we bring oneself to spend time with these persons.
Also there are lots of lonely persons out there we don't think about very often. Just imagine a old man or women in a home for the elderly. Most of these persons are very lonely as well, so why don't we spend a little bit of our free time to play with them cards or go for a walk with them. When you did this once you can see in their faces how happy their are that someone spend time with them and they will always be so thanksful to you for this.
I know that this are just a few reasons and I collected lots of more but why don't we try to make at least one person a day happy with a good think or a nice word.
So if you ever made somebody happy with something you done let me know in the comments below or write me on twitter. I would love to read them! :)
Lots of love,
Jen ♥
Heelllooo,
recently I was lying in the sun and thinking about my future. I thought about what I should do after school, which I will finally finishing in just 1 year! (Ahhhh... panic attack!! :o) But what should I do after it? Should I take a gap year or should I staring going to university directly? I personally definitely don't know it. And thats why I talked with some friends of mine about the future and nearly everbody didn't know what to do after school.. So I thought about it once again and I realiced how much presure we actually have. We have to make our parents proud with everything we do. We have to let nobody of our family down but, and the most important thing is: we have to choose something that we are happy with. But what is that? And this question is tooo hard to figure out. What do we want to do? Which job would I like to do later? And at this piont it's not only important that we like the job and we will work on it with all our hearts, nowadays it's also important if we earn enough money with it so we can live from it and maybe start a family without having much worries about the money. A big point on this list is that if we found a job we would like to do, are there ecually enough place of employment?
But beside of all these questions we shouldn't went crazy and do something we peronally don't like to do anly because we don't want to disappoint our parents or because their had planed our future but we wouldn't like to live our lifes that way but we do it because we don't want to disappoint them. All this is soo hard to decide and we probably we struggle with it for ages but the only thing that matters is if we happy with it and we can life wih it. Our parents have got a life. But we have our whole life to live and why do we want to waste it?
Even if we left school and we don't know what to do, thats not a shame! These days there are so many opportunitys for us to do to find out what we would like to do. We can take a gap year and travel around, be a au pair, do work and travel, do voluntary work or work experiences.
So don't do droop, just find out what you want to do and if your parents do plan your future for you talk with them. Tell them you don't want to live the life their want you to life. You want to do your own thing and at the end of the day their have to life with your decision and you as well!!
Lots of love,
Jen ♥
Heelllooo,
we all know this days, when we are not feeling too comptable in our skins. You just had a very stressful day, a argument with your friend or you think that on this day nothing fits right. On these days the best way to feel better again is just to have a pamper evening. Take a bath with some candles and some nice relaxing music, crap yourself a little bit of sweet (we all know that this will be chocolate! :)), put a facemask on and just lay in bed and don't think about anything. At this evenings we just have to come down and put all the bad thought, the pressure, all the worrys and everything we have to handle with everyday away. Even if we feel so worst, we just have to try to feel better again.
Not only on evenings like this we have to treat ourself nice, no, we should treat ourself ALWAYS nice! I know that this is sooo hard and nobody will ever make this happen. But why do we telling us what we don't have, what we can't do and always see in other persons things we would love to have and we would love to do? Why don't we see what we can do the best?
Every person is special in their own way and we should understand this and figure out what we can do the best and whats amazing/ nice about ourself and try to focus on this stuff. And not on all the stuff we will never achieve and reach.
I know very good that it's soooo easy to say this and their will be times you will concentrate yourself just on the bad things, but as long as we remember that there are good things about everyone it's fine. I don't won't to say everybody has to walk around extremly arrogant because they just concentrate on the good stuff and don't see when they are doing a mistake. Definitly not, but we just should see the positive side. If we do make a mistake, it's alright! We are just normal human beings so everybody makes mistakes, as long as we stand up again and try to do it better the next time.
So very long story, very short. Why don't we try to focusing on the positive side about ourselfs a little bit more and look in the mirror and don't say: I don't like my hair today or I don't like this and this about my body. Why don't we stand in front of our mirrors and say: I might not like my eyes today but I don't care. Even Megan Fox isn't look pretty every day!
So I hope a few people reminde my words the next time they stand in front of the mirror and see the positive side!
Lots of love,
Jen ♥
Heelllooo,
did you looked out of your window in the last few days? Yes? So you must have recognized that it's finally SPRING!!! Wuhu! :)
This means that the cold, grey and very short days are over!
With spring there come along a lot of good feelings. So a lot of people won't be depressive anymore and everybody is just in a nice and lovely mood!
Of course there are a lot of people who meet a nice person in their life and they will end up being in a realtionship. But once again, what's with these persons who don't find a partner? Should these one getting depressiv again and don't come out of their houses? Defnetly NO!
These person have to be in a good mood as well, live their life and smile! A lot of people are thinking only because they haven't got a boy- or girlfriend they can't be happy, but that's so wrong!
Even without a partner you can enjoy your lofe and do so many exciting stuff. Do you really need to have a partner for going to the park for a walk? Do you really need to have a partner for going to the cinema? Do you really need a partner for laughing? Do you really need to have a partner to smile?
Once again: NO!
You could do all this stuff on your own or grap some friends and have nice days and evenings. Go out with them, meet new people and who knows maybe you meet a person who is very very nice and you get on very very nice!?
So go out, enjoy the sund and life your life as an teenager/ young adult! And you will see that you will not regret your decision and you will have amazing times which are full of good memories!
Lots of love,
Jen ♥
Heelllooo,
as you can reckon from the titel of this blog, I started this blog because I personally think sometimes it's very hard to take a smile. You just can go outside and walk down the street and I bet that there are not so many people who walking around smiling. But why?
Shouln't we walk around smiling and enjoy our days? Why is it sooo hard to smile sometimes? Why is it sooo hard for some people to smile? These and many many more questions made me to start this blog.
I just want that a few more people walk around with a smile on their lips even without a special reason.
A lot of people may say that their are not happy and thats why their don't smile. But why aren't you happy? I know being happy can be soooo hard but every single person has got moments where they are happy, so why can we not keep this moments in our minds and if we need to be a bit happier retrieve this moments and smile again.
I know that this is soooo easy to say but why don't we give it a go and try it?
I really hope that if a person is reading this, someone remember what I wrote down and if you are down you remember my words and you can smile again even only for a short time but this would mean soooooo much to me!
So I hope you have an awesome day!
Lots of love,
Jen ♥
As you all know, today is Valentine's Day.
And because of this there are a few of us who are thinking this is the best day in the year but for some others of us it's the worst day in the year and some of us aren't very interested about it.
I think it's much interesting why it is like this.
If i'm thinking of Vaelntines's Day I have lots of pictues in my head. Couples walking around, hearts, flowers and all these others typical stuff.
But what about all these who haven't got the pleasure to spend this day with the person they love or havn't find a partner yet? These persons have got 2 opportunities: The first is they spend the whole day in they house/ room and don't go outside. The other opportunitie is they pretend they don't care and walking around smiling and packing their day full of stuff so they don't have to think about this day. Of course there are also people out there who aren't very interested in this day at all and don't care. But I personally only know these two typs of persons.
So it's just the question which of these person you are on your own and how you handle this day.
But at the end of the day there is just on thing that matters:
If you are loved?! And I don't mean by an amzing person whoyou are in a relationship with, I mean any person who love you. No matter if that's your parents, brother, sister, freinds or who ever is an close person to you. It's just important that you know you are loved by somebody out there.
So I hope you have an nice day...
Lots of love,
Jen ♥
